How to deal with sensory needs in times of change.

I've been having this discussion with people a lot recently, why are we all struggling so much at the moment? Then last week I had a huge realisation. As neurodiverse people with autism and/or adhd, we are far more sensitive to changes in energy, weather, activities and routine. We adapt a sensory diet to fit [...]

Transferring activities from school to home…

It's a common trait for autistic children to build expectations and rules on where certain people belong and certain activities take place. For example, a teacher belongs at school and maths belongs at school too. Many neurodiverse people have these feelings when adults as well, I certainly do. If I see someone like a doctor [...]

If I find parenthood more exhausting than others, does that make me a bad mum?

If I find parenthood far more exhausting than my friends do, does that make me a bad mum? This question has gone round and round in my head for years. I see my friends with neurotypical children and think, "yep, they're exhausted". Yet they can still manage to stay up until 10pm, hold down a [...]

Why does inattentive ADHD get missed so often?

Earlier in the week I listened to one of my favourite podcasts, Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast. They had a 30 minute interview with a psychiatrist and were talking about how girls get missed and left undiagnosed when it comes to inattentive ADHD. This i just had to listen to, I'm waiting for my assessment [...]

Disabled or not disabled? That is the question…

Despite various struggles that I face daily, I've never felt like a disabled person. Certainly not in everyday life anyway.Sure there are events, specific jobs (like the online food shop which I find so hard and the only reason i do that is because I can't cope with being in the actual shop to do [...]

Why autistic burnout is different.

When you're on the verge of physical burnout, people tell you to rest your body. To listen to it, to help it relax. Autistic burnout is different in that I find I must listen to my brain as much as my body, maybe even more so. Autistic burnout is when your brain becomes so exhausted, [...]

Why is everything always a problem?

"Why is everything always a problem?"I couldn't tell you how many times I've heard that phrase over the years, especially when I was younger.I think about logistics a lot. The hows and the wheres are important to me, I need to know them. My brain thinks at a rapid rate to see if something will [...]

Accepting limitations is not a weakness…

Accepting your limitations isn't a weakness, it's quite the opposite.As lockdown has continued I feel as though layers and layers of masking, expectation, self protection and my own false impressions of myself have slowly been stripped away. It's a strange feeling, the world has never provided me with an opportunity like this before. An opportunity [...]