If I find parenthood far more exhausting than my friends do, does that make me a bad mum? This question has gone round and round in my head for years. I see my friends with neurotypical children and think, "yep, they're exhausted". Yet they can still manage to stay up until 10pm, hold down a [...]
Why does inattentive ADHD get missed so often?
Earlier in the week I listened to one of my favourite podcasts, Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast. They had a 30 minute interview with a psychiatrist and were talking about how girls get missed and left undiagnosed when it comes to inattentive ADHD. This i just had to listen to, I'm waiting for my assessment [...]
Disabled or not disabled? That is the question…
Despite various struggles that I face daily, I've never felt like a disabled person. Certainly not in everyday life anyway.Sure there are events, specific jobs (like the online food shop which I find so hard and the only reason i do that is because I can't cope with being in the actual shop to do [...]
Why autistic burnout is different.
When you're on the verge of physical burnout, people tell you to rest your body. To listen to it, to help it relax. Autistic burnout is different in that I find I must listen to my brain as much as my body, maybe even more so. Autistic burnout is when your brain becomes so exhausted, [...]
Why is everything always a problem?
"Why is everything always a problem?"I couldn't tell you how many times I've heard that phrase over the years, especially when I was younger.I think about logistics a lot. The hows and the wheres are important to me, I need to know them. My brain thinks at a rapid rate to see if something will [...]
In a world that values team work…
If you ask someone what their favourite online game is right now, the majority of people will be able to answer you right away. Mine is online scrabble. It saved me during lockdown. It kept my brain busy, it was social without having to be actually social and kept connections (however vague) with people who [...]
Moving to our new normal.
Moving from survival to our new normal.I posted on social media about how my brain has been in shut down. It's protecting itself from threat. For a finite amount of time this is of course absolutely fine for an adhd brain, but after a while it leaves you feeling low that you're achieving nothing. You're [...]
Accepting limitations is not a weakness…
Accepting your limitations isn't a weakness, it's quite the opposite.As lockdown has continued I feel as though layers and layers of masking, expectation, self protection and my own false impressions of myself have slowly been stripped away. It's a strange feeling, the world has never provided me with an opportunity like this before. An opportunity [...]
The indirect risk of Coronavirus…
Just because you agree with a decision, doesn't mean you can't be scared about it too.By 7pm on Monday, McDonalds will close all its restaurants and drive thrus. Many people will have no clue why this terrifies me, but some of you will totally understand.Social distancing is not new to our family. We've been doing [...]
The importance of a morning routine.
One of my new years resolutions was to learn more about what makes me tick. So far the learning curve is pretty steep...During a term time week my morning routine is shit hot. I know what I need to do and in what order and once 9.30am comes I feel my whole body relax. If [...]
